Life Transitions Coaching

Change is hard and Life transitions are super complex.  They often feel brutal and when you come out the other end of them you can see it has been a period of profound personal growth and learning.   Many people can get really stuck and derail during life transitions. This can have a catastrophic impact on your relationships and your health.

Life transitions offer you huge personal growth opportunities when you have the right support around you. Imagine being able to create a road map to support you through your big transition and know that at the end you have made a life changing shift that you previously thought was impossible?

Imagine waking up and feeling like life is happening for you, the big change is happening for you. This is peace, this is freedom, this is living.

We go through many natural life transitions, like our teenage years, then becoming an adult,  parenthood, or moving into midlife/menopause and then elderhood.  Or we have transitions that occur as a result of life event, like Career Transitions, Divorce, living with serious and chronic illness and Grief.

Many of us experience big emotional swings. You might be experiencing unyielding grief that seems to come out of nowhere, anger, rage, frustration or deep sadness. It makes you feel unhinged. You want the old you back. Where do you start?

I’ve discovered that grief, whilst being an important experience for us to metabolise when we lose a loved one, is a part of every transition we go through. Many people wonder why they experience grief in a big change. Grief is the secret ingredient that we need to help us let go and move on. The tears of our grief help us in every transition in life, they provide the fluidity for us to let go of what we don’t need anymore so we can embrace our future self. It can be hard to experience grief can’t it because we haven’t been taught to deal with the hard emotions.

Often these big hard emotions are the tip of the iceberg, there is something deep underneath that is ready to be resolved. Our body knows how to heal and it brings it up for us in a myriad of ways. It is showing us where we are dysregulated. When you experience big emotions, sensations, feelings during big changes you think something is wrong with you, when in fact you are right on track. We just have to work with your nervous system to help you process and metabolise the big emotions and find out what is sitting with it and underneath it. Our nervous system can organise things in weird ways sometimes and what you might find is that a few of the emotions are actually tangled up together like a ball of wool with different colors tangled together. Often we have to work with what is linked that shouldn’t be and what is not linked that should be. Our body packages things together when we are in highly activated states of traumatic experiences we have and so when we experience it coming back we can feel a bit like we are going crazy.

Why does this happen?

It is a mixture of cultural and familial condition for most people. You have probably learned to repress the other hard stuff, whether it be emotions, behaviour, feelings, either to please your parents, or to stay safe. Your body gets to the stage where its allostatic load, how much stress you can manage, is pretty full. It says enough and it all pours out. Big Hormonal changes can shake your nervous system up to and the old stuff starts to come up. Your body records every experience of your life, it remembers everything. You may have no explicit memory behind why you are feeling a certain way, you may be experiencing big sensations, emotions and feelings and have no idea why.

Through all of these big changes, the foundations of your identity can get very shaky because your identity as an individual is changing.  It is often expanding.  These times can be very challenging if they come unexpectedly.  Even if you know they are coming, they can sometimes turn out to be nothing like you imagined.  Sometimes you feel like the earth is moving underneath you, you feel that you have lost your inner compass and it is hard to get any stability, you want life to go back to normal but actually you are transforming and normal is going to look different.  These are times when getting support is critical, you do not have to do it alone.

I work with a midlife audience because I believe this is an incredibly complex time of massive change that is not well understood or supported.

I want to provide you with support, lived experience and information so that you can navigate these transitions in an empowered way.  I believe our cultural narrative around transitions through rites of passage have been lost over time. Without the container of support, people feel lost and anchorless and can find it hard to find their direction and way through.

The typical Transitions my clients face include:

• Navigating the Peri/Menopause journey from a physiological, psychological, spiritual and cultural perspective,

• Becoming a parent and helping you navigate the changes in your relationship,

• Transition to Elderhood, doing the deep work to heal so you can thrive in life,

• Navigating living with chronic and serious illness like cancer, autoimmune and syndromal conditions,

• Having the deep inner knowing that you have to make a big career change but you don’t know where to start,

• Working through a Midlife Crisis - Wanting to birth a new version of ourselves during Midlife,

• Women’s Empowerment, discovering, stepping into and becoming your personal power,

• Dealing with Death of a loved one,

• Reblooming after a divorce/significant relationship breakup so that you can find the love you want and deserve.

You might identify with one of these scenarios or maybe three or four. Maybe more?

I like to surface ideas that really challenge our internalised cultural belief systems that are getting in the way of our growth.  We internalise culture and it shapes our belief systems, when you go through big change, you start to realise that you have outgrown your old world view and everything you know to be true is no longer. I really believe these passages are so difficult because culturally, we have been taught by the patriarchy that our bodies are secondary and not important so we shame them and disconnect from them. So we have learned to not listen to them and ignore our feelings, emotions and just keep pushing on.

Your body will lead your through, she/he/they store every experience of your life and the memory of it lives in your autonomic nervous system. Using somatic coaching tools, you will learn to feel connect with all your emotions and you will learn to love and be with them. You will become super connected to your innate sense of deep knowing - some call it intuition. I call it deep knowing.

I often find in midlife we are dealing with multiple transitions because of the stage of life we are in. So you may have elderly parents you are caring for, you want a career change and you might be dealing with menopause all at the same time. Or maybe you have all of this and are going through a Divorce also. It can be a very complex and confusing time.

So if you are struggling with big changes in your life, I am here to support, guide and coach you through this transition so you can learn to be in your body and thrive in the future.

“Kellie is relatable, knowledgeable and puts you at ease. She takes you on a journey where you learn a lot about yourself and your behaviours. Very valuable sessions in which I continue to utilise the strategies learnt day to day. Thank you so much!”

“Kellie has a unique gift where she empowers her clients to work through what is stopping them from being the best they can be. Working with Kellie is like talking with a friend who cares about you deeply, and is committed to seeing you rise”.

I have deep expertise, professional training and education in complex change, adult development, somatic coaching, somatic experiencing, life transitions and I am a midlife person myself. I have a huge amount of lived experience transitioining through multliplelife transitions. I am a parent of teenagers, have been through menopause, survived cancer and a long cancer treatment, and navigated a corporate career to executive level, only to leave it all behind and then work in coaching and trauma resolution work which has involved an enormous amount of study, self-reflection and deep inner work, whilst at the same time parenting teenagers.

How is coaching different from therapy? How does it work?

I am a somatic coach so we work with the body and the mind at the same time. This means my approach is an experience first approach. This means we don’t just talk about things, we get to actually feel them, live them, practice them and make them your new reality.

Unlike other types of therapy that only work with the mind, we will go through a unique, leading edge experience that is founded in neuroscience, where we work towards your desires, discover what is blocking you and then go through practices together. I create bespoke home-plays for you (guided practices to do at home) to help you grow, transform and return to your natural wholeness and a new level of confidence, self awareness and self knowledge. So you will walk away with your own toolkit to help you regulate your nervous system, communicate better with the people in your life and to be with whatever life throws your way.

Logistics and Pricing

I offer 4 or 6 month coaching programs.   All sessions are online and I create a personal learning portal for you where I will give you home practices to do each week, in between our sessions, to facilitate the change you are growing towards. (You get to keep these forever). You can do either two or three sessions a month, sessions are 90 minutes long and you have access to me in between seasions. We can co-create a program for you so that you can blossom into the next stage of your life. You may be feeling that you need to combine transitions coaching, with relationship coaching and even a bit of executive coaching. We can do this. The program is bespoke and tailored to what you need as an individual. Therefore we can combine transition work, sexuality and relationship work, deep shadow work, nervous system repatterning; whatever you need.

The pricing for a six month life transitions coaching program depends on how many sessions a month you choose to do. For two sessions a month it is AUD$880 monthly for six months. For three sessions it is AUD$1320 a month. If you pay the full amount for the six month coaching program up front, there is a 5% discount.

The biggest gain from coaching is that you will come through your transition, whatever its nature, not feeling like your old self but a newer, more vibrant, more emotionally mature, more empowered version of yourself, with a new outlook on life and lots of new tools and strategies to deal with the day to day. This will boost your resilience and capacity to thrive.

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‘I am in my mid-50's, mother and partner, successful professional. Over my career I also needed to take on a lot of therapeutic work to manage issues from a difficult childhood. Kellie's work is for ME. It is to extend me past my 'hang ups', explore my vulnerability in pursuit of joy and freedom I want at this stage of my life. Emotional freedom, physical freedom, and deeper self-knowledge. I am using the work with Kellie to find my post-50 liberation. And loving it!’

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